CBT - Huge impact!

Ok - so there I was feeling so trapped anytime I was anywhere near my wife. Four weeks of two sessions a week with a new therapist where she has got me to focus on;

What specific feelings I feel (I refer to a list)
Triggers with automatic thoughts, feelings, physical feelings then behaviour
Then to start questioning the automatic thoughts

Et voila! I am a NEW man!

I have found that in the last week or so I have had no problem in feeling trapped with my wife. And what's more, crucially, I've started to pick up on her defences and triggers. She claimed I was not giving an emotional connection but now I realise that I AM giving an emotional connection, but it is my wife that is unable to maintain it under certain conditions. She felt I was being dominating in some areas but it turns out she feels threatened therefore me being the centre of my circle was extremely threatening.

It's been an amazing week! Sex, trip to Birmingham shopping with lots of talking, talking over breakfast, tea... pushing back and highlighting where maybe my wife was struggling. Where a trigger was causing negative thoughts with resulting anxiety and panic for her..

And it is SO different!

I'm still going to gym and starting to build muscle and some definition. Still can't run as I have what I believe to be tendinitis in my knees from laying loft insulation - but I think that's getting better too.. I'm taking super whey protein (maximuscle) to help with muscle gain. Already my wife is noticing the difference too meaning more scope for fancying me.

We've talked about oral sex, how she feels about my dick (she feels that I am threatening and wanting to dominate her - an example of a trigger with negative thinking), making sex/love, her being visible, her showing her feelings, he being allowed to know how she feels... it all resulted in mind blowing sex about two hours ago. She wore this lovely black satin negligee, suspenders, black high heels, no knickers... then struck a pose allowing me to see all........

Oh my..