My problem statement

One of the first things my therapist has asked me to produce is a "problem statement" - a precis of what I believe my problem is. It is as follows;

My problem is that I fear those around me will treat me like my parents and school kids did. That is, that they will seek to dominate and abuse me. I have worked very hard to ensure that doesn’t happen, and am constantly on guard (defended). This is most obvious in my closest relationships – particularly my wife, and to a lesser degree my girls. It stops me from living in the moment. Instead I hide, escape and defend myself. I have used being “right” as a strong defence against my dad, the result being that when I get it “wrong” the guilt can be debilitating. Being wrong equates to catastrophe. I try very hard to get it right. I keep a tally of how much time I’ve spent, or, what I've done with my wife to both protect and justify myself or my position. I am not allowed to just be, or be me.